In what they're calling two of the hardest days in recent memory, State Troopers on Friday confirmed the identities of two persons who died in what police say was a double homicide in Duanesburg on Wednesday night.
Among them is 5-year-old Jacob Patino, who died at the scene, police said. Alexandria Bustamante Gomez, 37, died at Albany Medical Center as a result of injuries sustained in the attack, according to police.
Patino was a kindergartener at Duanesburg Elementary School, where he made a lasting impact on those around him.
What You Need To Know
- Duanesburg kindergartener Jacob Patino was stabbed and killed Wednesday night in Duanesburg
- Patino was just 5, but made a lasting impact on others
- One clinical psychologist says it's OK for parents to discuss what happened with children impacted by it
“Jacob was a good friend to his classmates and also a person that staff really enjoyed being with," Duanesburg Superintendent Dr. James Niedermeier said. "I know he’ll be missed terribly. Right now, we’re just trying to focus on making sure everyone who knew him has the support that they need to keep the good memories of Jacob alive.”
Counselors in the district are doing the best they can for those who need it. But coping with an event like this, especially at a young age, is difficult.
Dr. Rudy Nydegger, a clinical psychologist, says parents can have tough conversations at home with young ones.
“I think it’s OK for kids to say, ‘We don’t know why someone would do something this awful,’" Nydegger said. "Fortunately, things like this happen vary rarely. But when they do happen, it's scary and very sad that a family has to go through something like this.”
Nydegger says even if parents notice their child is withdrawn, approach them and ask how they’re feeling.
“If you notice a change in their behavior, but they haven’t asked any questions, it’s OK to ask if they have any questions," Nydegger said. "Keep your answers brief, to the point, answer the questions they ask and be careful with the language you use, the words you use. What you’re trying to do is help them put this terrible event into a perspective that allows them to function while acknowledging it, but not being overwhelmed by it.”
Another important thing Nydegger says to do is be absolute.
“If you say something like, ‘It might happen to you,’ you left the door open," he said. "Don’t leave the door open.”
Nydegger said all children will respond and heal differently, and the best remedy is to try and get their minds on something else.