Do you have a teenager? Do you hear statements like why bother, what difference does it make, I don't care? Those statements are pretty common for teenagers the good news is there are experts to give you tips on how to get through it; the bad news is it may take a while.
Clinical Psychologist Dr. Kerry Murray-Pertchik says that the teens who challenge authority are going through a stage and parents you shouldn't take it personally.
"As part of the developmental stage teens are supposed to push away from their parents and to challenge authority," said Murray-Pertchik. "It may feel at times your teenager hates you; try to take a look at the big picture to recognize that they are more irritable at the stage. They have hormones that are creating more labiality or mood swings."
The expectations regarding respectful behavior between you and your teen need to be established beforehand.
"Maybe having a family meeting where you are outlining rules and expectations up front," said Murray-Pertchik.
There may be times when things get heated doors are slammed people are shouting, anger is high according to the expert this is the time you need to take a timeout.
"Both parties disengage. Definitely walk away and you will have more as a parent more executive functioning to walk away then a teenager is going to. They don't have the same brain development that adult does," said Murray-Pertchik.
Experts say even if your teen doesn't seem to do much right -- reinforce the little that they do.
"The best way to impact behavior we know is through positive praise, and through reinforcement. Any time your child is acting respectfully or praise that child give them rewards. When we reinforce behavior they are more likely to recur again in the future," said Murray-Pertchik.
Teaching kids how to be respectful takes time, time that will pay off as they grow older.