Valentine’s Day is about love and romantic feelings, but for some it can also mean loneliness. An ongoing study at the University of Rochester tells us why our connections with other people are so important for our health and well-being

On Valentine’s Day, it's important to note that romantic relationships are not the only important relationships in our lives. Studies suggest that quality social connections factor into how we feel and even how long we live. 

Kim Van Orden, UR clinical psychologist, says it’s just as essential as having food, water and shelter. When we’re lacking quality connections in our life it can lead to depression, sadness and cardiac issues.

If you’re afraid to put yourself out there she says the most effective thing to do is the opposite of what you’re afraid of and put yourself out there. 

“Remember just how important connections are for our well-being," Van Orden said. "We can often think about the things I have to get done are my chores or take medicine. We often don’t prioritize spending time with people. It’s just like taking your medicine or exercising.”

While her study focuses on helping older people engage, this information applies to people of all ages. The goal of her Hope Lab is to help people grow meaningful social connections as they grow older. For anyone who is feeling lonely and isolated and is fearful of putting themselves out there, look for groups that you have a shared interest or activity. 

Alternatively, you can volunteer for Americorp or Senior Corp, which studies say improve health. They have locations right here in Rochester.