For survivors of domestic violence, getting help is even more difficult due to the coronavirus pandemic.

Experts say understanding the cycle of abuse is an important part of realizing what is happening so victims can then get the help that they need.

Tiffany Pavone of Victims Services has been doing victim service work for more than 15 years, and says that the hardest part for victims to understand is that the relationships don’t usually start out abusive.

“I think what clearly came out with COVID is that it’s already difficult when every element of your life is being controlled by another individual,” Pavone said. “When you no longer have the opportunity to escape that at all, because you’re quarantined in your house, it becomes that much more difficult to reach out for help.”

The Buffalo-based organization, Community Services for Every1, offers assistance for those who have been victims of domestic violence. To reach the Victim Empowerment Liaison, call 716-949-6678.

“When someone comes to us and finally gets help, they’re able to completely break free from their abuser. They’re able to start their life over,” said Mindy Cervoni, Community Services for Every1 president.

“They start out very loving and almost whirlwind romantic relationships, and victims so desperately want to get back to what they had in the beginning,” Pavone said. “Unfortunately, that’s the façade. That’s what they used to get you to gain their trust and lock you in. You’re never going to get back to that.”

She adds that victims often feel like the situation is their fault, but that’s just not the reality.

“You feel like you’re completely dependent on that other person and your abuser has purposely made you feel that way,” Pavone said.

Once you can truly understand and accept the cycle, experts say it becomes a little easier to break free and get help.

The number for the National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-SAFE.